If I were single, I’d carry around a checklist so that I could easily weed in or weed out potential mates. Maybe not a physical list, but perhaps a note on my iPhone or something a little less obvious…
But seeing as how I haven’t needed to think about that for quite some time now, I’d probably be pretty clueless about what to include on said list.
1. Music: In my experience, relationships are a little wonky if you don’t have the same taste in music, because that could mean that you might not have much else in common, either. I used to date guys who were into rap, and while I like a little Tupac and Nate Dogg every now and then, I definitely couldn’t get behind the window-shattering bass that made my eardrums reverberate from here to Wisconsin.
2. Travel: Don’t get me wrong – living in a place that you enjoy staying in for an extended period of time is important, but of equal significance is the need to get the hell outta Dodge every so often too. Be it a little 1.5 hour road trip up to Tomales Bay or a jaunt across the Atlantic, if you don’t like to travel you’d quickly get the boot.
3. Hair gel: I don’t know that I could ever date someone who spends more time fixing their hair than I do. Sure, those wayward spikes might look kinda cool, but only from afar. That’s why I’m married to someone who shaves his head every week.
4. Video games: Can’t say I ever saw this one coming, but I have to admit – video games are sorta key. But what I really mean is that the person would have to have a couple of hobbies that I could give a crap about. We all need time to ourselves, and it works nicely if you have a guy who can entertain himself while you paint your nails, or blog, or ride your bike. Or talk to the girls while he talks to the guys. You know how that goes.
5. Raw seafood: Just because it seems logical. And because sushi wouldn’t be fun if I couldn’t get at least 4 different maki rolls and only eat half of it. While I used to disagree, oysters aren’t bad either. Chris’ love of these bivalves eventually turned me into a lover too, although it was certainly an arduous task for him to win me over (ahem. I speak only in regard to me liking oysters here – of course.).
Plus – whatever would we have done this weekend had we not driven up to Tomales Bay Oyster Farm and shucked some shells with these lovely people (and one who wasn’t invited – guess who)?
serves 8 hungry oyster-eaters
time commitment: depends on your shucking skillz; mignonettes take less than 10 minutes to make
as many fresh, local oysters as you want (the measurements below take care of ~50 oysters)
5 t water
10 T rice vinegar
1.5 t pink peppercorns
1.5 T finely minced ginger
5 t finely minced shallots
1 t whole coriander seeds
Champagne vinegar mignonette
3.5 T Champagne vinegar
2.5 T finely chopped shallot
1/4 t coarsely ground black pepper
1/4 t sugar
1.5 T finely chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley
shuck the oysters and put them on the classiest tray of ice that you can locate. if you’re not well versed in shuckin’, try this tutorial. it takes some practice, but you’ll get the hang of it pretty quickly.
make the oyster mignonettes by simply combining the ingredients for each one into a small dish. serve mignonettes alongside cold, shucked oysters and lots of beer, wine, and friends.